The Grit

I’ve kicked off 2023 pretty well. We’re 2 weeks in and I’ve already ticked off two new girls, both of them this week and I’m fucking happy with the quality too. I’m not going to go over every girl, simply because there’s not always teachable moments but I will share last night with you all.

So I’m a bar having some drinks after work and I spy these two girls together. I’d seen one of them earlier but it wasn’t the right time to approach and she hadn’t seen me anyway so I bided my time and went to the bar. Anyway so her and her friend pop up again and she looks smashing, visually everything that I really like in a girl and she drew me in primally. Naturally I go over to her friend first and make some standard intro, I think I just made a comment about the bar or something, I’d never been there before. As we’re talking another guy pops up and starts talking to the girl I fancy, this is all within about 20 seconds so you do need to move fast in this world. Anyway so I used my social intelligence and manoeuvred the conversation so it was more of an open group and then got talking to the girl I wanted. So early on, I’m bringing out the banter because she had her coat and a scarf on so I told her to take them off. She took her coat off but came back with her scarf. Then I made fun her scarf and she took that off next. It was a subtle compliance thing, it showed she was willing to fit into my frame. Good start.

Now in game there’s many ways to skin a cat and I’m more direct, I don’t like to beat around the bush and waste my time so I told her I thought she was attractive and I came over to them both to talk to her. She was eating it up. Anyway her friend wasn’t having the other guy and was looking for a guy so my girl said I think we’re going to find a guy for her friend but she’d love to meet me next week for a drink and that she’s going to give me her number. Interesting, it’s a clear sign of interest but not for this night, which is fine. So we swap numbers and we move on.

I start chatting to a few other girls but I realised that the first girl was the hottest girl there so I didn’t really have any conviction with the other girls and kept excusing myself. Maybe an hour later, I see the first talking to a guy and I can see it’s not going so well for him, I walk past and she grabs me. She gets in really close and our faces are close. Sexual tension was off the scales there. We end up kissing. The guy was clearly confused because we didn’t really say anything to each other.

From that point on she was on me like no problems, fully compliant. So now it’s about getting her out of here and sorting out her friend. At this point we’re actually scouting for guys but they keep trying to hit on my girl because she’s banging and she kept saying she was with me, I didn’t have to do a thing. This is a good girl who knows what she’s got. We’re chatting more, turns out we have mutual friends so we start taking selfies and sending them to them because we’re drunk by that point. Dancing, lots of body contact but I kept kissing to a minimum. We’re classy here.

I want to interject her and say one thing. She said something which guys really underrate and forget about. She actual mentioned normal I was. She’s not the first girl to do this. I’m really not trying too hard and being super weird. Guys are less socially intelligent and think they need to do more but by actually being a normal guy who has a normal conversation sprinkled with some fun and banter, she’s getting a great experience. Guys who are too full on scare girls because they feel that intensity and desperation and think they’re going to end up getting locked in a basement or something. So that’s a teaching point, being normal is not a bad thing and by normal, I just mean not socially weird.

Anyway, it’s closing time and we book an Uber to her place actually even though I live alone, this was just so her friend was comfortable. Absolutely no issues from then, we really created an “us” bubble that night so everything felt natural and that was that. I really like this girl, if she hasn’t got buyers remorse, we’ll go on a date and if she’s still behaving herself then I’ll clear a space in my rotation for her.

Notice my mindset here, I have future intentions but there is a caveat, it’s unconditional. If she starts acting like a prick, she’s out. I have very compliant, low maintenance girls in my rotation for a reason. No matter how hot you are, giving me grief is a fast way to me walking away.