The Grit

This is something that all of you instinctively know already but don’t want to admit. I know this because even now I still feel it and have to catch myself sometimes. Chatting to a girl is nice. It feels nice and it’s fun. I am deliberately using the word nice because that’s all it is.

It is not anywhere near as hot as stripping a girl naked for the first time and getting to feel her. It’s nowhere near as hot as you watch her give herself to you, even if she doesn’t know you that well. That’s what’s hot.

Most guys are completely fine with putting up with nice though. They would rather just have the nice aspect of things and not push for hot. Because pushing for hot is real. It’s real because you can get rejected. Having a nice conversation is nice but as soon as you have to make a move or escalate guys get scared because you run the risk of bursting the bubble. She might turn around and tell you that she’s not that into you. They can go home and their ego will say they had a nice conversation and everything was good but nothing comes of it.

I say fuck it.

If she’s not into you. Good. 

You get the chance to move on and talk to someone else.

You get the reference experience and you’ve learnt the signs that she gave off so in the future you can pick up on these cues slightly better.

You’re not going to be her friend. You’re not going to take a dead number. You’re not going to worry about how you look because she’s not interested in you.

You’re living your life with the simple metric. Yes or no. Either I’m getting what I want or I’m moving on. 

Do you want nice experience or do you want a hot experience? Give me a hot one any day of the week.

That means in any interaction that you’re having with women, the only way you get to the hot experience is by pushing the envelope. You need to move in interaction forward. It doesn’t have to be a big grand gesture but you can do the smallest possible escalation, this shows you that things are progressing in the right direction.

Peace